Is It This or Is It That?

This week's newsletter was prompted by an email from a reader who is trying to figure out whether or not her husband is gay.  This is a question that I got a a lot in my years working in sex shops.  After being asked it the first few dozen times, and each time trying a different approach in my response, I began to notice that there was something connecting each of the askers, even though the circumstances were often radically different.  

In each case there was such an intense focus on this one question, and an equally powerful belief that it had one answer, that the second part of the question (which was always "…or is it me") never had room to be really opened up and explored.  At times like these I think I can be most useful by asking questions, and acting sort of as a gentle arranger of time and attention.  So here goes.  ~  Cory

Someone forward you this email? No Sweat! Sign up here to get your own If you're having trouble viewing this email, click here Follow Us Is It This or Is It That? This week's newsletter was prompted by an email from a reader who is trying to figure out whether or not her husband is gay.  This is a question that I got a a lot in my years working in sex shops.  After being asked it the first few dozen times, and each time trying a different approach in my response, I began to notice that there was something connecting each of the askers, even though the circumstances were often radically different.   In each case there was such an intense focus on this one question, and an equally powerful belief that it had one answer, that the second part of the question (which was always "…or is it me") never had room to be really opened up and explored.  At times like these I think I can be most useful by asking questions, and acting sort of as a gentle arranger of time and attention.  So here goes.  ~  Cory Cory Silverberg Sexuality Expert Is He Gay, or Is It Me?   Is it possible to sleuth out the truth about someone's sexual orientation?  And if you could, who decides if the answer is the correct one? READ NOW Is It Circumcision or Is It Me?   The question of whether or not being circumcised results in a different kind of sex or sexual experience changes if the person asking it is the person who is circumcised.   READ NOW Is It Piercing or Is It Me?   A interesting conundrum involving twice pierced nipples and some missing sensation. READ NOW Is It Porn or Is It Me?   A voice we hear less of in the media discussion of porn:  a young woman who thinks her porn watching habits may be getting in the way of sex with her boyfriend. READ NOW Featured Articles • Don't Get Remarried Until You Read This • Obadele Thompson and Marion Jones Marriage Profile • Roald Dahl and Patricia Neal - Marriage Profile • Vanessa and Eddie Long Marriage Profile • Surviving The Hell Of Coparenting With a Narcissist • Shirley Temple's Nearly 55-year Marriage to Charles Black • Things to Consider Before Remarrying Your Ex • Legal Abuse: When a Spouse Uses Family Court To Exact Revenge Advertisement About Sexuality  |  Follow Us You are receiving this newsletter because you subscribed to the Sexuality newsletter. If you wish to unsubscribe, please click here 1500 Broadway, 6th Floor, New York, NY, 10036 © 2015 About.com - All rights reserved. Privacy Policy.