Sexuality and Our Leaky Bodies

In 1991 writer and performance artist Cheryl Marie Wade wrote an article called "It Ain't Exactly Sexy" that was published in a popular disability rights magazine called The Ragged Edge. It's a loud, blunt, and incisive critique of how we talk about private things, and it's the first thing I think about when I get a question about having an "accident" during sex.  Wade believes we need to get rid of euphemistic language that keeps us both ashamed and ignorant.  She was writing for a specific audience, but her words and perspective is of value to everyone.  As she says, this may not be a sexy topic, but the only way we can redefine sexy is to start packing more into it.  ~  Cory

Someone forward you this email? No Sweat! Sign up here to get your own If you're having trouble viewing this email, click here Follow Us Sexuality and Our Leaky Bodies In 1991 writer and performance artist Cheryl Marie Wade wrote an article called "It Ain't Exactly Sexy" that was published in a popular disability rights magazine called The Ragged Edge. It's a loud, blunt, and incisive critique of how we talk about private things, and it's the first thing I think about when I get a question about having an "accident" during sex.  Wade believes we need to get rid of euphemistic language that keeps us both ashamed and ignorant.  She was writing for a specific audience, but her words and perspective is of value to everyone.  As she says, this may not be a sexy topic, but the only way we can redefine sexy is to start packing more into it.  ~  Cory Cory Silverberg Sexuality Expert Bowel Movement During Sex The subject of bowel movements and bladder control during sex is one that most people avoid discussing at all costs.  The cycle of silence and shame is one with tight turns and few ways out.  For some, dealing with the embarrassment and shame is the only place to start. READ NOW Talking Sh*t About Sex Where do you start a conversation about losing control of your bowel or bladder during sex? Those who think that urine and feces are sexy probably already have some ideas on this, but for most people, taboos about bodily fluids - combined with restrictive ideas about what is sex and what is sexy - can make a conversation about bowel and bladder control during sex seem painful to the point of impossible. READ NOW Dealing with a Silent Partner My partner makes absolutely no noise during sex, she's completely silent. I take it as a sign that there's something wrong with what I'm doing. I need help figuring out how to talk to her about it, and how to please her more, because she's obviously unsatisfied. READ NOW Talk to Your Doctor About Sex They aren't usually trained for it, they don't make it easy, and they may not be able to help, but with some concerns your doctor will be able to offer information and advice that no one else can. READ NOW Featured Articles • Are You a Couch Potato? 4 Ways to Still Make Friends • Is It Time To Start Dating Again? • Behind the Scenes in the Marriage of Paula and Dennis Rader, the BTK Killer • How Much Sex Does the Average Couple Have? • Blues Singer Bessie Smith Loved Women • Warning Signs Your Marriage Is in Trouble • 10 Signs You're Still in the Honeymoon Phase • 4 Things I Wish I’d Known Before I Went Through a Divorce Advertisement About Sexuality  |  Follow Us You are receiving this newsletter because you subscribed to the Sexuality newsletter. If you wish to unsubscribe, please click here 1500 Broadway, 6th Floor, New York, NY, 10036 © 2015 About.com - All rights reserved. Privacy Policy.